Why Was I Ghosted?

Conversation Failure Categories

Not listening

Pressuring

That Guy: Send me a photo of your efforts cutie. 

Sub: I wanted to follow up and say that's the 4-5th time I've had to say no to you for the same photo request. You keep asking for the same highly intimate photo - we do not have a rapport for any photos currently. You've sent none, I've sent none.

That Guy: Whoever said I was reasonable?

Sub: I'm trying to be reasonable. The more you ask the more I pull back

That Guy: You're just treading water... Get in the game or get out of the water and take a towel

Sub: I'm not sure why I'm responding anymore.

Yikes. One of the foundations of a healthy relationship, BDSM or otherwise, is LISTENING to your partner. When your submissive indicates that they are starting to get uncomfortable, the last thing you want to do is provide them with additional pressure to participate. You should be providing an apology and supplying comfort and reassurance that you don't want them to feel that way. 

In this instance a good dominant would acknowledge that he was wrong and that he should be ramping up the exposure and pacing slowly according to the submissive's comfort level. What should this have sounded like? Maybe something like this: "I'm sorry I've made you uncomfortable, it's true that we haven't shared photos yet, I hope to build enough comfort in our relationship to get to that point in the future, I won't ask again for that photo until you offer it."

 If you haven't exchanged any photos yet, for example, it's unlikely that asking for a very intimate one is going to be met with excitement, especially if you haven't shared any of yourself. Your submissive is still your equal and you need to put as much effort into the relationship as they do. Unless the submissive has specifically indicated that they want to be exposed and do not mind you being completely unknown and anonymous then they are going to want to feel that they are equally exposed and at risk in the context of the relationship as you are. Sharing nude or intimate photos with a new person on the internet always has inherent risks.

Thinking about the Dom being "exposed" too may sound counterintuitive at first, but when anyone shares photos or their emotional desires and vulnerabilities they are exposing themselves. The amount of exposure in an ideal BDSM relationship might not be 50/50 but should not look like 0/100.

If the process of sharing provided by the submissive is too slow for the dominant then this is just not a good match from the start. There will always be someone who is willing to go your pace and to fulfill your needs but that won't be everyone that you talk to and it's not appropriate to make anyone feel pressured to share things they don't feel ready for. Period.